In India where almost half of the population are women, they have always been ill-treated and deprived of their right to life and personal liberty as provided under the constitution of India. Women are always considered as a physically and emotionally weaker than the males, whereas at present women have proved themselves in almost every field of life affirming that they are no less than men due to their hard work whether at home or working places. Behind closed doors of homes all across our country, people are being tortured, beaten and killed. It is happening in rural areas, towns, cities and in metropolitans as well. It is crossing all social classes, genders, racial lines and age groups. It is becoming a legacy being passed on from one generation to another. But offences against women which reflects the pathetic reality that women are just not safe and secure anywhere. According to a latest report prepared by India’s National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB), a crime has been recorded against women in every three minutes in India. Every 60 minutes, two women are raped in this country. Every six hours, a young married woman is found beaten to death, burnt or driven to suicide.
Violence against women is not a new phenomenon. Women have to bear the burns of domestic, public, physical as well as emotional and mental violence against them, which affects her status in the society at the larger extent. The statistics of increasing crimes against women is shocking, where women are subjected to violence attacks i.e. foeticide, infanticide, medical neglect, child marriages, bride burning, sexual abuse of girl child, forced marriages, rapes, prostitution, sexual harassment at home as well as work places etc. In all the above cases women is considered as aggrieved person.
The term used to describe this exploding problem of violence within our homes is ‘Domestic Violence’. This violence is towards someone who we are in a relationship with, be it a wife, husband, son, daughter, mother, father, grandparent or any other family member. It can be a male’s or a female’s atrocities towards another male or a female. Anyone can be a victim and a victimizer. This violence has a tendency to explode in various forms such as physical, sexual or emotional. ‘Domestic Violence’ includes harms or injuries which endangers women’s health, safety, life, limb or well being, whether mental or physical. It may also be through physical, sexual, verbal, emotional and economic abuse. According to ‘United Nation Population Fund Report’, around two-third of married Indian women are victims of Domestic Violence attacks and as many as 70 per cent of married women in India between the age of 15 and 49 are victims of beating, rape or forced sex. In India, more than 55 percent of the women suffer from Domestic Violence, especially in the states of Bihar, U.P., M.P. and other northern states.
What amounts to domestic violence against women? -Domestic Violence undoubtedly a human right issue where it is very important to know what actually leads to act of domestic violence. The most common causes for women stalking and battering include:- exploitation of women for demanding more dowry, discrimination of women, alienation of women’s self acquired property fraudulently, torture by husband and in-laws of the husband, arguing with the partner, refusing to have sex with the partner, neglecting children, going out of home without telling the partner, not cooking properly or on time, indulging in extra marital affairs, not looking after in-laws, cruelty by husband or in-laws mentally or physically, abusing & insulting by using vulgar language, sexual harassment, molestation, immoral traffic, rape, sodomy and all other inhuman acts. In all above stated causes women are subjected to torture and will be considered as the aggrieved person. Usually violence takes place due to lack of understandings between the couple as well as in the family.
The consequences of domestic violence attack on women, which will affect victim as well as family of the victim. Domestic Violence affects women’s productivity in all forms of life i.e. assaulted women will always get agonized and emotionally disturbed and remain quite after occurrence of the torment. The suicide case of such victimized women is also a deadly consequence and the number of such cases is increasing day by day. A working Indian woman may lose her efficiency in work or drop out from work in some cases. Domestic Violence may affect the life of children at the larger extent because child will be having greater attachment with her mother and once the mother’s grief and sufferings revealed then child may turn silent, reserved and express solace to the mother. In some of the cases violence will lead to maintain distance from the partner whereby sexual life gets affected adversely. Sometimes marriage life will become a burden to the spouse and one of the spouses will opt out for divorce or separation which again affects life of the children.
In a case where wife is beaten up by her husband doesn’t amount to domestic violence unless a sufficient reason of violation of right to life is shown. In another case where the women just not given food, it amounts to domestic violence if it is intended to achieve the ultimate purpose of necking her out of the benefits of shared household.
To prevent violence against women and to protect the rights of aggrieved women, the legislation ‘The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005’ was passed by the parliament. According to this act every women who have been deprived of their right to life by the act of husband or relatives of the husband, can file a complaint to the protection officer, police officer or magistrate in the form of ‘Domestic Incident Report’ (Similar to FIR). Complaint can be filed by the victim /aggrieved person or relatives, it will be considered as the prima-facie evidence of the offence. Every ‘Domestic Incident Report’ has to be prepared by the Protection Officer which will assist in the further investigation of the incidence. The protection officer will pass certain orders i.e. protection of the women, custody of respondent and order of monetary relief to the victim.
The Government of India should come out with some more stringent laws to protect the rights of women who are victims of violence of any kind occurring within the family, so that it will work as the preventive measure to eradicate the crime. A strict law to be passed to punish those women who are filing a false compliant against husband or relatives by misusing of Domestic Violence Act so that there will be fair justice to all.
DHAWESH PAHUJA
Am married to my mothers own younger brother. my father passed away when i was 12 yrs old. since then i was forced by my mother to marry her brother. he took me to take care of my grandmother who was having BP and Sugar. While i use to manage school and house work,
he use to sexually harass me and blackmail me every day and night that if i dont sleep with him then he would not marry me and i had to sleep with him thinking of my family situation. one day when i could not take the torture, i commited sucide by having 30 sleeping pills which did not take my life but instead i was admitted to hospital and survived.
but still it he did not stop harrasing me. i told my mother of what ever happened and the answer she gave me was”he is ur future husband, so he has all the rights on you, listen to what ever he says, think of your younger sister as well, now if u dont marry him after having S-x then how would the society will treat us…..”
finally at the age of 18, i got married to him. Am already half died here and i continued to do all he says, sacrifised my life and dreams for my family. since my mother only took care of my husband fromt he childhood, she has more love and care for him.
From my childhood am blamed by my mother and aunt that coz of my birth,my mother had to face many troubles in her life. and this thing did not come into her mind unless a saint/muni who told her that your elder daughter is trouble some for you through out your life as her kundali is not good.
since then she sgtarted mentally torturing me for what ever bad happens at home. for ex…my father passed away and my sis was adopted by my uncle so she blamed me that i was the reason for my fathers death and i seperated my sis from my mother.
had been through hell in my life.its so painful life. my husband beats me, keep quaralling and my mother blames me for everything rather giving some kind of support to me.
Am currently an employee for MNC in contract having one Baby girl of 5 yrs. i give 90% of my salary to my mother as am responsible to take care of her and my sis me being eldest daughter.and i feel there no security for me as even today my husband bet me and injured my left eye and my mother never spoke anything instead she blamed me that its my fault.
The above is just a point one percent of my life history. Please can some one support me and my daughter lead a peaceful life?
It really hurts a lot to see that in the Nation which is advancing in every field of life cannot safeguard women and mke them feel that they are human beings and in India these blogs, forums, pages on facebook would never help any single female in India.
he will come back to you. I have seen another indian man trapped by a thai dancer.
His wife was intelligent and she made it a point not to break relations ,but lived seperately with parents.Since she did not fight too much the man did pay visits to the kids . after 2 years the man realized his mistake .but it was too late .but they mend the marriage and got back after 5 years and now the guy is much less adventurus
Only a few cruel women can misuse the laws,rest all suffer!
After 15 years of marriage and a 9 yr old kid my husband wants to divorce me for a woman from thailand, he knows my father is no more and my mother is not in the position to support me, though my case is strong i have no financial background as he is from a business family and also they can go to any extent, moreover he is not willing to give us (me and my kid) anything , not even a house to stay and has tried everyhting to put us outside the house, as he knows i am not in the position to fight him , he is having the time of his life. if thers can guidance or advice anyone can provide it will be of great help
A false domestic violence case has been lodged against me. Now i get anticipatory bail. What can I do now.
agar ek pati apni patni ko without any reason roj maare aur saas bhi maare to kya kiya jana chahiye. india me koi aisa law he jisase bina divorce ke pati ke sath hi safe rah sake…?
This case was not filed for obvious reasons:
To The Station Officer in Charge, Qdy Police Station
Sub: A case of ‘Excess against women’ and ‘domicile cruelty against women’
Cheekilote Vipinachandran (a retired Hindi teacher) was physically removed in a Police Van from Alikandi House, Poilkav, a scene of abuse, ‘rowdysm’ and maltreatment to elderly woman, after ten pm on Tuesday, March 19, 2013. This was the final day of the local (Poilkav) Temple Festival.
This incident occurred in front of the Grand Parental house (Alikandi) of the accused, which is pending partition. Vipinachandran’s aunt (Mother’s youngest sister) Devaki Amma (70+) a widow, is living in Alikandi House, whose two daughters are married. Vipinachandran’s mother has a share in the undivided house-building and talks for an amicable partition are on an advanced stage.
C Vipinachandran Nair is a liquor-addict over two decades, and often visits the above house and threatens and showers abuses over the lady and daughters who are literally terrified and frightened to make a complaint. Moreover, they fear that filing a complaint will worsen the progress of partition.
The physically removal of Vipinachandran in a Police van after ten pm on Tuesday, March 19, 2013 was true and was soon after the latest cruel, merciless, and deliberately and remorselessly causing pain or anguish to the old widow, an incident of ‘Excess against women’ and ‘domicile cruelty against women’, which will re-occur frequently if it is not prevented early.
The Officer-in-charge of Quilandi Police may kindly call C Vipinachandran, and make him sign a promise not to visit Alikandi House, and threaten Devaki Amma, and also find an amicable settlement for the partition of the property, with-out any bias and also inform the dire and natural consequences on re-occurrence of similar incidents.
I repeat to mention that my widowed sister Alikandi Devaki Amma and daughters are literally terrified and frightened to make a complaint. Moreover, they fear that filing a complaint will worsen the progress of the impending amicable partition of the house property.
This request in right earnest is filed by A. Madhavan Nair (68), youngest brother of Devaki Amma, now living a retired life in Kalyani House, No.86, Periyar Gardens, Thottakkattukara, Aluva, Ernakulam District.
We are women. how we can say that we needed a help for our mental,social, spiritual and physical development? we have lots of inner strength.Why we are saying that “Hame Azadi chahiye.” First update your knowledge. Participate in office , social & family matters. workout on work life balance & time management & Fitness. Must know what is Women Empowerment.If you have a time go for higher studies or training irrespective of age. All men / their families are not bad. Few of them are having criminal minds due to some circumstances.We can win them with our love & affection
If we have this kind of voilance at home then to whom we should contact for this. Any toll free no which is available for 24X7. Becuase all the NGO’s and women cell are working only 9 to 6 and weekend is off. I mean what kind of Govt we do have who do not have enought security for womens nor any of the no which is available for 24X365 for the help except police. And delhi ki police to itni mahan hai ki saara kaam hone ke bhi 1hr ke baad aati hai just for formality nothing else.
My sister has been tortured, harassed and attached in property issue by his Husband’s brother. It is a daily scene. Her husband in abroad. kindly advise pl.